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GFE is a regular term used often that means many different things to many different people, clients & Ladies alike.
It’s used so often it’s a cliche or just a bad marketing joke


Are the components of GFE strictly physical actions like kissing & caressing?


Can it be GFE without kissing?


If more than just physical actions what kind of things make up GFE to you?


I would love response from both Ladies & clients


There obviously is no one and only answer for everyone, if there was I wouldn’t be broaching the subject

I ask for an hour of GFE.  Then I detail what that means to me, and then see if the lady agrees. 

To me GFE is automatic. If a party isn't automatic GFE then it is 1 and done. A guy shouldn't have to ask for it and I won't.

MrTShirt link wrote: I ask for an hour of GFE.  Then I detail what that means to me, and then see if the lady agrees. 

Ok so what does it mean to you?

Cobia link wrote: To me GFE is automatic. If a party isn't automatic GFE then it is 1 and done. A guy shouldn't have to ask for it and I won't.

Ok so what’s involved with your GFE?

SixT9er link wrote: Ok so what’s involved with your GFE?

Smoocking and all sorts of good stuff.  ;D

SixT9er link wrote: Ok so what does it mean to you?

It is a secret, but with a 26 incher,it would be unique. 

MrTShirt link wrote: It is a secret, but with a 26 incher,it would be unique. 

26 incher, diameter of your wheels?

We never seek out a GFE party. Kissing, caressing, emotions ... that’s for us to share outside the party - and not what we look for our brothel adventures.

Basically, we just want to be so damn tired after the party that we just want to pay another hour to take a nap!  On a couple occasions though, there was a connection ... some type of energy ... that made the Mrs feel like she’d kind of like to snuggle with the courtesan while she napped. Maybe that’s a GFE? 

GI Gen and I were holding court late one night at the bar at LRV, exchanging philosophy about LPIN, when she stated "its all GFE."  I think that summed it up best!

Chuckar chaser link wrote: I think GFE is more of a comfort level and trust than actual activities. At one time I thought GFE was not available in a brothel but now yeah it can happen. Activites do play a part but need to have the conection, comfort and trust first.

Exactly.

Chuckar chaser link wrote: I think GFE is more of a comfort level and trust than actual activities. At one time I thought GFE was not available in a brothel but now yeah it can happen. Activites do play a part but need to have the conection, comfort and trust first.

I like that definition.??

Chuckar chaser link wrote: I think GFE is more of a comfort level and trust than actual activities....
Activites do play a part but need to have the conection, comfort and trust first.

What's really profound is that is the exact same thing needed for BDSM!
It's interesting that the two are so much alike in many ways.

I like my ATF's acronym - WFE = "Whatever Feels Good! "

GFE kinda scares me  :-[ If you have a girl friend, that means you've been together for a while and may start having mutual b*tching sessions  :o

I use the term GFE loosely when I mention this to the ladies during negotiations.  It lets them know right away that I'm not interested in BDSM or other type of fetish parties.  LOL

My broad definition of GFE has always been whatever a girlfriend and boyfriend would do in real life whether it pertains to sexual or nonsexual activities.  For example, I've never had a GF in my personal life who didn't kiss, who didn't allow DATY, who didn't hug/cuddle, etc.  Although, all ladies are different, even in the civvie world which is why everyones view on GFE is different.  In the real world, some ladies don't even have premarital sex with their boyfriends ...LOL

With GFE, a lot has to do with chemistry and trust too, since GFEs tends to be more intimate than just a party devoted to sex alone.  Some ladies are also natural at providing GFEs and consider it their basic party while others have to be good actresses to pull it off. 

When I first started visiting houses I would throw out “industry” terms like GFE or PSE depending on what I was looking for but I stopped and haven’t done that for years now.


First, the terms have different meanings for everyone so you have to discuss activities in more detail anyways. Also, I found that when I used those terms the negotiations were always longer, often more difficult, and sometimes led to discussions of this activity costing X vs this activity costing Y.


Now I just simply state what activities I want if that’s kissing for example or anything else, what positions I like or don’t like, the approximate length of party I want, and the budget I have to work with. It seems far simpler this way and in doing that I’ve never had anyone tell me it’s more for a particular activity.  Obviously speciality stuff like anal etc. is different.

Chicagobob link wrote: GI Gen and I were holding court late one night at the bar at LRV, exchanging philosophy about LPIN, when she stated "its all GFE."  I think that summed it up best!

But it's not.  I have met ladies that do not allow kissing or uncovered oral on them.  This includes ladies who claim they provide GFE.  This is why I am sure to specify kissing and oral on them during negotiations.  I never use the word GFE when discussing a party with a lady.

Chicagobob link wrote: GI Gen and I were holding court late one night at the bar at LRV, exchanging philosophy about LPIN, when she stated "its all GFE."  I think that summed it up best!

Speaking of GI Jen, she gives one heck of a party ...LOL.  I wish I had the chance of partying with her more when she was still around. 

Although, I've known 3 ladies who came out and told me that they aren't GFE, so not all ladies consider themselves GFEs.  Only one of those ladies is still working, the others two are retired.

My opinion is that GFE is a marketing term that has been so overused that it means nothing. Think about it. How many times have you thought to yourself,  "I want her to act like my girlfriend."? It's more of a role play term in my opinion.  It's very defined.


I don't try to differentiate or change my style based on whether or not it is a GFE. That would complicate things. I just be myself and it happens to be pretty much what people think is a GFE.


I have learned a lot since I started. All these complicated party types and pricing structures ruin the experience. I keep it simple.  Tell me what you want and I say yes or no then we quickly figure out a price and then move forward.


I don't want it to be complicated and you don't either so I just don't use the term because my parties are already GFE.