Should you ever let a lady know the reasons why you no longer will be seeing her

[Slednx]

I'm not talking about a single party and you didn't hit it off or something physically about her. More like a chick you partied with a few times, really liked but she continually does something that you bothers you. You try hinting but it continues.


Not one to leave people wondering I will just tell you all.


Saw a hottie a few times in the cul-de-sac, attractive young lady, good sex! But, she always showered before we got started, around 5 minutes after returning from the cage.  I hate that shit! I am always freshly showered and I kinda expect her to be clean before we even go through negotiations. It's not the 5 minutes, trust me....it has to do with killing the moment for me. Negotiations usually include some kissing and light pettin'...enough to get a guy worked up and excited. A good negotiation usually means me walking to the cashier half chubbed up already. That's hot, get back to room and continue where we left off. Hell, I will even help set the sheets up on the bed!


The whole stopping for her to take a shower KILLS the spontaneity of it all, one reason why I enjoy cat houses. Then having to hit the restart button when she gets out, well...by then I am just not into it as much. Just kills the mood for me. At any rate, I hinted to her, she didn't pick up on it, I stopped seeing her because of it.


Can you even have constructive critiscm anymore with the ladies or will it just backfire? I wonder because she was sweet and I could have seen her many more times.

[SixT9er]

I think it depends on the maturity level of the Lady. I’m pretty sure I know who you’re talking about and she in my interactions with her doesn’t possess the maturity to handle it.



Regarding the shower I agree I expect the Lady to be clean and ready to go when we hit the room

[Goldie]

The only thing that occurs to me is that maybe she thinks it is a good thing? Maybe someone else told her that it’s best to shower right before? IDK...I think in this situation you may as well tell. There is nothing to lose. If you tell her and she handles OK, you can keep partying with her. If she doesn’t handle, you won’t party anymore. But...if you don’t tell her and just stop partying, you’ve for sure lost a potential fav.

Goldie

[SixT9er]

As Goldie says you have nothing to lose by mentioning it to her

[rachelvarga]

I see your point Sled. I think if you tell her that you prefer she shower before you arrive, she shouldn't get mad. It would be immature to get mad if someone asked nicely.


It seems more reasonable to be ready to go. I shower after the party so I am ready to go when my next client and I get to my room.

[rachelvarga]

I agree it would be at least worth mentioning to her. I think it is a weird way to do business you would think the house would tell the ladies they need to be ready to party if they are on the floor.

She may do it for clients. Nothing wrong with it but it could break momentum. Best is to ask her not to shower after negotiations. I doubt she would get mad.

[SexyLexieJames]

I think its in your best interest to mention it to her. If you enjoy your time with her, this would be a silly reason not to see her if she is willing to shower before you arrive. Are you coming in as an appointment or an unexpected walk-in? Personally, if I am expecting someone, I will always shower before they arrive. However, the days are long, so if I have a walk-in pick me out of lineup, I almost always shower right when we get back to my room after booking. My shift starts at 11 am, so I will shower at 10:15-ish and if you come in at 4 pm, 8 pm or especially midnight and I feel less than fresh, I am going to quickly rinse for our mutual comfort and enjoyment. To me that is important for you to have the best experience for your $$. If this is necessary, I always add 5 minutes to our party time and let my guest know that in advance.[/size]

[Just Another Guy]

Well, a lady in the cul-de-sac did the same to me.  She said "Be right back" and was gone easily more than 5 minutes and the shower was running.  It wasn't a time-eating thing, she more than made up for it.  It was a great party, but I can see what you are saying about being ready to go and then THAT!


I didn't say anything to her.  I believe she thinks it's a good thing.  But I mentioned it to an ATF who thought it was weird that she walked off for several minutes to shower without saying so or offering for me to join her OR SOMETHING.