The Sub Has The Power!
Posted: Tue Oct 02, 2018 12:11 am
I've been struggling with this question for many years! : 
BrothelLife
The Sub Has The Power!
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Re: The Sub Has The Power!
Posted: Tue Oct 02, 2018 11:20 am
I agree if you dont respect or take care of sub then the dom will soon have no sub
Re: The Sub Has The Power!
Posted: Tue Oct 02, 2018 12:28 pm
KittiMinx link wrote: Having been a fetishist for 10 years now I can safely say the Sub controls the scene. A Dom that doesn't respect the Sub's wishes and boundaries isn't a real Dom and it could lead to severe issues during the scene and after. I wrote a whole blog article on this! lol
Hey Miss Kitti! Could you post that link?
Re: The Sub Has The Power!
Posted: Wed Oct 03, 2018 3:25 pm
Great read Kitti... I especially like your examples of good/bad play. I also agree that in society it is still looked down on for a woman to be the sub. I think people just don't understand the dynamics. [/size]KittiMinx link wrote:Here you go! http://cosplaycourtesan.com/post/166537632594/kink-friendly-courtesans-what-is-a-true
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I love Dom/sub play as long as its real.. I'm not into role play. The actual trust it takes transcends the sex itself and it takes on an entirely different realm between the people involved. Another misconception is the sub never gets rewarded. To me, that's the best part - the final reward! [/size]
I always put my sub on a pedestal! [/size]
Re: The Sub Has The Power!
Posted: Sat Oct 06, 2018 1:54 am
Perfect Kitti. Explains it perfectly!
I truly believe that the intensity for me comes from balance. The balance of that power being given
from the sub, and the dom in turn, knowing and respecting when to take and when to give back that power.
That pure no BS trust that takes place in the experience is almost other worldly for me. Nothing I
have ever done can come close to the intensity of walking that line and feeling that trust.
I truly believe that the intensity for me comes from balance. The balance of that power being given
from the sub, and the dom in turn, knowing and respecting when to take and when to give back that power.
That pure no BS trust that takes place in the experience is almost other worldly for me. Nothing I
have ever done can come close to the intensity of walking that line and feeling that trust.
Re: The Sub Has The Power!
Posted: Sat Oct 06, 2018 4:39 am
Crappie1 link wrote: Perfect Kitti. Explains it perfectly!
I truly believe that the intensity for me comes from balance. The balance of that power being given
from the sub, and the dom in turn, knowing and respecting when to take and when to give back that power.
That pure no BS trust that takes place in the experience is almost other worldly for me. Nothing I
have ever done can come close to the intensity of walking that line and feeling that trust.
You're growing up Little Grasshopper - learning to embrace the edge! ;D
Re: The Sub Has The Power!
Posted: Sun Oct 07, 2018 3:52 pm
Haha, why thank you Master!!!Chicagobob link wrote:
You're growing up Little Grasshopper - learning to embrace the edge! ;D
Re: The Sub Has The Power!
Posted: Mon Oct 08, 2018 2:42 am
I readily admit I kniw very little about how this all works.
It seems to me that as long as the Dom respects the wishes of the Sub then yes the Sub has the power but if the Dom loses control then obviously they are in the power position especially if the Sub is restrained
It seems to me that as long as the Dom respects the wishes of the Sub then yes the Sub has the power but if the Dom loses control then obviously they are in the power position especially if the Sub is restrained
Re: The Sub Has The Power!
Posted: Mon Oct 08, 2018 5:51 pm
In the TOOOOOWWWWWNNNNN...
Where I was BOOOOORRRRRNNNN...
Oops, wrong sub! Sorry about that hehe ;D
Where I was BOOOOORRRRRNNNN...
Oops, wrong sub! Sorry about that hehe ;D
Re: The Sub Has The Power!
Posted: Mon Oct 15, 2018 7:38 am
Dom/subs are never in control. Control means a person is dictating instructions and with humans that tends to mean an absolute.
The BDSM culture makes all these rules think they know everything. Ironically the group that wants to be do different is just like any other group. Think they know everything. Fetlife with all these people claiming to be different but they are all the same and it's boring.
A sub and Dom are symbiotic. They need each other. The Dom's control is illusionary just like the subs.
The BDSM culture makes all these rules think they know everything. Ironically the group that wants to be do different is just like any other group. Think they know everything. Fetlife with all these people claiming to be different but they are all the same and it's boring.
A sub and Dom are symbiotic. They need each other. The Dom's control is illusionary just like the subs.
Re: The Sub Has The Power!
Posted: Mon Oct 15, 2018 10:24 am
I wonder if all the new 50 Shades wannabe kinksters understand that true BDSM is way beyond the sex itself? :
Re: The Sub Has The Power!
Posted: Tue Oct 16, 2018 3:24 am
Doubt itChicagobob link wrote: I wonder if all the new 50 Shades wannabe kinksters understand that true BDSM is way beyond the sex itself? :
Re: The Sub Has The Power!
Posted: Tue Oct 16, 2018 4:13 am
I hate 50 shades! Spoiler alert: the protagonist is a millennial cliche, and the Dom is an emotionally stunted asshole with too much money. Somewhere in there they fuck and at the end she agrees to be caned and then flips out and cries.
The end. ;D
The end. ;D
Re: The Sub Has The Power!
Posted: Tue Oct 16, 2018 5:27 am
Thanks for saving me some time. I have never read the book(s)/saw the film, in spite of the buzz.
Re: The Sub Has The Power!
Posted: Tue Oct 16, 2018 5:34 am
I got bored within the first 20 minutes. I kept thinking that everyone now is going to believe that this is real BDSM. :
Re: The Sub Has The Power!
Posted: Tue Oct 16, 2018 3:45 pm
Perfect synopsis!The Mighty Peanut link wrote:
I hate 50 shades! Spoiler alert: the protagonist is a millennial cliche, and the Dom is an emotionally stunted asshole with too much money. Somewhere in there they fuck and at the end she agrees to be caned and then flips out and cries.
The end. ;D
Re: The Sub Has The Power!
Posted: Sat Oct 27, 2018 2:42 am
RoxyGold link wrote: In the TOOOOOWWWWWNNNNN...Where I was BOOOOORRRRRNNNN... Oops, wrong sub! Sorry about that hehe ;D
We all live in a Yellow...yeah, guess the Sub does have the power