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Respect in negotiations

Posted: Sun Nov 12, 2017 10:04 am
by SixT9er
When negotiating a party I think it’s very important to have respect for each other. The client must respect among other things that the Lady is giving herself intimately to you. The Lady needs to respect that you have worked many hours for the money to pay for that one hour of time you’re looking to spend.


To me honestly in negotiations is a vital part of the respect. If The Lady doesn’t party for the amount you’re offering for the party you are requesting she should tell you. If you walk in a house with the intent to spend for example xxx/hr don’t lie and say you only have $yyy then eventually agree to the $xxx. If you have $xxx but only budgeted $yyy for a party and the rest is for other things on your trip then say your budget is only $yyy. The first example will set mistrust in and that’s not the way to start a party. The second may not get you the party you wanted but the Lady will respect you more that the budget is all you’re willing to pay and probably work something out close to what you were looking for. I have had times where $zzz was all I had and I told the Lady as much. We worked out a great party for a lesser amount of time.


Just be honest and respectful in negotiations and more often than not the Lady will be the same

Re: Respect in negotiations

Posted: Sun Nov 12, 2017 11:35 am
by Just Another Guy
I guess words mean everything to some people.  "All I have" clearly doesn't have to mean the same as exactly what amount you are carrying.  You may "have" money for other parts of your vacation in your pocket. 

One lady saw that I had more cash left beyond our negotiated price, and she tried re-negotiating a longer time at the booker window.  It didn't kill the buzz of the party, but it probably would have with some other guys.

I think I have just avoided saying any terms of "finality."  No "all I have" or "all I can afford" or "I won't go over....."  But really- we are all adults and I am free to say AND MEAN "all I have."  If I go over that, I decided to forego something else in my travels.

Re: Respect in negotiations

Posted: Mon Nov 13, 2017 11:09 am
by rachelvarga
There is always a little bit of play back and forth. You are either close to the same amount or have a huge gap. If close you can probably wodk it out. If there is a huge gap and can't be closed qui'ckly then both parties just be nice and go back to the parlor.


The worst thing to do is get mad or make shitty comment's. It just wasn't meant to be. Same thing with girls. Be friendly and go back to the parlor. If I know a girl that is in his budget I might introduce them.

Re: Respect in negotiations

Posted: Mon Nov 13, 2017 12:37 pm
by SexyLexieJames
I was always under the impression that this was important as well. Lately however, a person I am close enough in proximity to be able to  hear her negotiations straight up bullies people... and it works! I think it should be a polite exchange and if no agreement is reached, then we go our separate ways, no hard feelings. I hear a lot of "well if you don't want to commit you can get out" or "ha you're going to double that amount, right?" or "I told you what you get for the little amount you offered... if you don't get more money you get nothing else."[/size]
9 times out of 10, the client accepts and books... how does this work? Anyone have any insight?[/size]

Re: Respect in negotiations

Posted: Mon Nov 13, 2017 2:08 pm
by Metalhead
Lexie James link wrote: I was always under the impression that this was important as well. Lately however, a person I am close enough in proximity to be able to  hear her negotiations straight up bullies people... and it works! I think it should be a polite exchange and if no agreement is reached, then we go our separate ways, no hard feelings. I hear a lot of "well if you don't want to commit you can get out" or "ha you're going to double that amount, right?" or "I told you what you get for the little amount you offered... if you don't get more money you get nothing else."[/size]
9 times out of 10, the client accepts and books... how does this work? Anyone have any insight?[/size]

I know exactly what you're talking about cuz my 1st negation went like that. First you have me a starry eyed noob with no idea about how any of this works & her pretty much stating what you mentioned & as for how does this work my only possible explanation is nerves & not knowing any better but that's just my best guess.

Re: Respect in negotiations

Posted: Mon Nov 13, 2017 5:06 pm
by saranhe
I didn't play this game yet. But planning to do exactlyy what Chucar Chaser said. Just have in my pocket exact amount that I am willing to spend for the party. Of course, some extra cash might be there (in the different pocket) that could be remaining from the amount allocated for spending in the bar. And if stars are not aligned for me on that day, I will just try to enjoy the presence of the beautiful sexy ladies in the bar as long as I want. While spending those party allocated money in the bar with/for the lady or two ladies that I would have been mostly affected by.

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Re: Respect in negotiations

Posted: Mon Nov 13, 2017 7:21 pm
by Perseus
Lexie James link wrote: I was always under the impression that this was important as well. Lately however, a person I am close enough in proximity to be able to  hear her negotiations straight up bullies people... and it works! I think it should be a polite exchange and if no agreement is reached, then we go our separate ways, no hard feelings. I hear a lot of "well if you don't want to commit you can get out" or "ha you're going to double that amount, right?" or "I told you what you get for the little amount you offered... if you don't get more money you get nothing else."[/size]
9 times out of 10, the client accepts and books... how does this work? Anyone have any insight?[/size]
Hello Lexie, I believe that part of it is experience. You will go through more negotiations in a week than us guys do in a year. Up-selling and intimidation will be less effective as the client gains experience. I also believe that these kind of tactics lead to "one and done" parties. She will not see a very high percentage of them again. Its a trade-off: Maximize the money in front of you at the expense of a longer term client relationship. May be fine in very busy times. If the economy slows down, then it might be nice to have repeats and  regulars. Also may not be a good idea if you have a conscience and like to sleep soundly at night. (Wall Street would probably disagree.) I'm still really lousy at the negotiations, but if I heard those lines, especially "...you can get out" I would be walking.

Re: Respect in negotiations

Posted: Mon Nov 13, 2017 7:26 pm
by SixT9er
Lexie James link wrote: I was always under the impression that this was important as well. Lately however, a person I am close enough in proximity to be able to  hear her negotiations straight up bullies people... and it works! I think it should be a polite exchange and if no agreement is reached, then we go our separate ways, no hard feelings. I hear a lot of "well if you don't want to commit you can get out" or "ha you're going to double that amount, right?" or "I told you what you get for the little amount you offered... if you don't get more money you get nothing else."[/size]
9 times out of 10, the client accepts and books... how does this work? Anyone have any insight?[/size]
A few reasons this may work.
The client was planning on paying that amount but tried to lowball and when he found out that wouldn’t work agreed to price


The client got so hooked on the Lady he let his little head do the thinking. He probably will regret it later even if the party was good


The client has extremely low self esteem and the fact that any woman will have sex with him even at a price he really can’t afford he’ll take it


Some clients like to be treated like shit!


I’m sure I drive some Ladies crazy because I don’t negotiate. I’m completely up front. I tell them what I want and what I will pay. I think I make a fare offer and in the past it’s been accepted much more than declined.


Last thing I want to do is have an intense negotiation with a Lady I want to have sex with. I love to negotiate with car salesmen but I’m not looking to have sex with them!

Re: Respect in negotiations

Posted: Tue Nov 14, 2017 8:59 pm
by niceguy eddie
Lexie James link wrote: I was always under the impression that this was important as well. Lately however, a person I am close enough in proximity to be able to  hear her negotiations straight up bullies people... and it works! I think it should be a polite exchange and if no agreement is reached, then we go our separate ways, no hard feelings. I hear a lot of "well if you don't want to commit you can get out" or "ha you're going to double that amount, right?" or "I told you what you get for the little amount you offered... if you don't get more money you get nothing else."[/size]
9 times out of 10, the client accepts and books... how does this work? Anyone have any insight?[/size]

9 out of 10 clients accepts and books?


I must be that 10th client.  I have never experienced anything like this and have no idea whom you are talking about.


I realize it must be difficult for a lady to negotiate--especially when it comes to getting a higher price--but, if some lady used some of those lines with me she would earn a place on my NEF list- never ever fuck list.

Re: Respect in negotiations

Posted: Wed Nov 15, 2017 7:07 am
by rachelvarga
NEF list. Hahhhahaha. I have one of those too.

Re: Respect in negotiations

Posted: Thu Nov 16, 2017 6:12 am
by Dirk Diggler
Lexie James link wrote: I was always under the impression that this was important as well. Lately however, a person I am close enough in proximity to be able to  hear her negotiations straight up bullies people... and it works! I think it should be a polite exchange and if no agreement is reached, then we go our separate ways, no hard feelings. I hear a lot of "well if you don't want to commit you can get out" or "ha you're going to double that amount, right?" or "I told you what you get for the little amount you offered... if you don't get more money you get nothing else."[/size]
9 times out of 10, the client accepts and books... how does this work? Anyone have any insight?[/size]

There are some great responses to your question that I agree with. I think another reason can be that it is easy to fall into a mental trap of building preconceived expectations of how a lady and party is going to be before you even meet. When you overthink/fantasize about an encounter before it occurs you are psychologically committing which in my experience is a mistake. To be clear, this just relates to first time parties.


Early on in my LPIN experience I had a particular lady I wanted to party with, I thought I knew what the party would be like based on her internet persona, and after communications with her I put down a deposit for a 2 girl party.


Being that it was going to be my first threesome I was pretty excited and fantasized extensively before the scheduled date. When I arrived however, one of the girls was a no show and the other girl said my budget was no where close enough for a 2 girl party (now I know that was untrue), but she would be willing to “work” with me. Unfortunately I didn’t walk away like I should have and for a number of reasons it ended up being a miserable party for me.


Now that I am more experienced and had time to self analyze my decision making I am fairly confident I would never find myself in that type of situation again. I understand those who do though since I was there once myself.


Dirk

Re: Respect in negotiations

Posted: Thu Nov 16, 2017 9:14 am
by saranhe
Dirk Diggler link wrote:
Lexie James wrote: I was always under the impression that this was important as well. Lately however, a person I am close enough in proximity to be able to  hear her negotiations straight up bullies people... and it works! I think it should be a polite exchange and if no agreement is reached, then we go our separate ways, no hard feelings. I hear a lot of "well if you don't want to commit you can get out" or "ha you're going to double that amount, right?" or "I told you what you get for the little amount you offered... if you don't get more money you get nothing else."[/size]
9 times out of 10, the client accepts and books... how does this work? Anyone have any insight?[/size]

There are some great responses to your question that I agree with. I think another reason can be that it is easy to fall into a mental trap of building preconceived expectations of how a lady and party is going to be before you even meet. When you overthink/fantasize about an encounter before it occurs you are psychologically committing which in my experience is a mistake. To be clear, this just relates to first time parties.


Early on in my LPIN experience I had a particular lady I wanted to party with, I thought I knew what the party would be like based on her internet persona, and after communications with her I put down a deposit for a 2 girl party.


Being that it was going to be my first threesome I was pretty excited and fantasized extensively before the scheduled date. When I arrived however, one of the girls was a no show and the other girl said my budget was no where close enough for a 2 girl party (now I know that was untrue), but she would be willing to “work” with me. Unfortunately I didn’t walk away like I should have and for a number of reasons it ended up being a miserable party for me.


Now that I am more experienced and had time to self analyze my decision making I am fairly confident I would never find myself in that type of situation again. I understand those who do though since I was there once myself.


Dirk
"When you overthink/fantasize about an encounter before it occurs you are psychologically committing which [in my experience] is a mistake."

Replace "encounter" with "any event", and this is so true about everything in life.

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Re: Respect in negotiations

Posted: Thu Nov 16, 2017 3:24 pm
by rachelvarga
saranhe link wrote:
Dirk Diggler wrote:
Lexie James wrote: I was always under the impression that this was important as well. Lately however, a person I am close enough in proximity to be able to  hear her negotiations straight up bullies people... and it works! I think it should be a polite exchange and if no agreement is reached, then we go our separate ways, no hard feelings. I hear a lot of "well if you don't want to commit you can get out" or "ha you're going to double that amount, right?" or "I told you what you get for the little amount you offered... if you don't get more money you get nothing else."[/size]
9 times out of 10, the client accepts and books... how does this work? Anyone have any insight?[/size]

There are some great responses to your question that I agree with. I think another reason can be that it is easy to fall into a mental trap of building preconceived expectations of how a lady and party is going to be before you even meet. When you overthink/fantasize about an encounter before it occurs you are psychologically committing which in my experience is a mistake. To be clear, this just relates to first time parties.


Early on in my LPIN experience I had a particular lady I wanted to party with, I thought I knew what the party would be like based on her internet persona, and after communications with her I put down a deposit for a 2 girl party.


Being that it was going to be my first threesome I was pretty excited and fantasized extensively before the scheduled date. When I arrived however, one of the girls was a no show and the other girl said my budget was no where close enough for a 2 girl party (now I know that was untrue), but she would be willing to “work” with me. Unfortunately I didn’t walk away like I should have and for a number of reasons it ended up being a miserable party for me.


Now that I am more experienced and had time to self analyze my decision making I am fairly confident I would never find myself in that type of situation again. I understand those who do though since I was there once myself.


Dirk
"When you overthink/fantasize about an encounter before it occurs you are psychologically committing which [in my experience] is a mistake."

Replace "encounter" with "any event", and this is so true about everything in life.

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I don't think it's a mistake. Well I don't think it will make the average person accept a rate that is too high. I'm not a guy though so I could be wrong.