Older and Wiser

[Dirk Diggler]

I know as I've gotten older I've learned a lot about myself and about women in general. I think most of us have moments when we reflect back and think only if I knew then what I know now. I just can't imagine though what my perspective will be on the fairer sex twenty years or more from now (I'm in my 40's).


For our more *ahem* distinguished gentleman, what did you wish your 40 year old self know that you only know now and did your desires and tastes change significantly over time? To include the ladies, are there certain qualities in general you appreciate that tend to be found in specific age ranges of men compared to others or have your sexual expectations changed?


For me at least, I am finding as I grow older that intimacy and companionship are becoming equally as important as sex and perhaps more. I still think about sex all the time haha, but sex without a connection isn't as enjoyable especially compared to when I was young.


I'm interested to hear others opinions and maybe get an idea of what to expect or consider before I hit my "golden years".

[rachelvarga]

This is a really good question and helps both me and girls that want to know, what interests men at what ages. I am a pleaser and I try to take in what I can to understand people. I know that older gentlemen have a tendency to romanticism. I am not sure if it is generational or it comes from age and experience. I do like it just as  I like "let's just fuck" sex. I am really interested in the responses so that it helps me understand what makes a party better. So there is more motivation to answer his question because I am interested too.

[Chicagobob]

Great topic!  Dunno about "Golden Years" but I'm a lot older than most people think.  Here's my take...  my sexuality has been evolving since I was in my teens.  As a matter of fact, I got my first blow job at age 13 by a 19 year old woman!

As time passed,  I went through the vanilla stage, the one night stands, the fast & furious fuck stage, the romance stage, and have currently been into S&M over the past 7-10 years.

S&M has (by far) been the most intense of all.  Most vanilla people think it's all whips & chains - that is so far from the truth!  It's the trust that makes it really mind-blowing!  Most of my S&M partners are long-term relationships and far exceed "romance."

Anyway, back to your question... don't limit yourself to one type of sex.  Explore the unknown and go beyond your own comfort zone - you might be surprised at what you might like.  I know so many guys who think they have to have the Barbie Doll GFE type and believe that is all that could possibly satisfy them. 

Keep an open mind and enjoy the ride!  BTW, I've got more game now than when I was 20 years old...  8)