Different question on Outing someone

[SixT9er]

Is it acceptable to reveal a poster/clients real name after they die?


My answer is Hell No! Just what their family members who are unaware of this side of the person needs is to out of curiosity some day when they are bored they google their uncle/brother/ father and a website dedicated to Legal prostitution pops up and they discover shit that possibly tarnishes their memory of their loved one

[rachelvarga]

I know this is about Maxwood. We shouldn't post anything about someone's personal life after they die.

When someone dies they only exist in memory and revealing they visited brothels could alter those in a bad way. Also,  sometimes people say,  "I don't care,  I won't be here anyways" but they don't mean it. Not saying Max did,  just pointing out a likely scenario.

Let's be respectful and not do this on purpose or inadvertantly. Just some food for thought.

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[MrTShirt]

...sometimes people say,  "I don't care,  I won't be here anyways" but they don't mean it....

Whether or not the guy cares, their relatives, parents, kids, etc. may care.
If we want LPIN to be treated with respect, then this would be part of creating that respectful attitude.

[FumbleNutts]

I agree with TShirt. Regardless what you may have interpreted about a patron/client, don't out them in any way.

[niceguy eddie]

I agree.  His name should not be listed.

There have been some exceptions in the past.

When Arctic Bear died his brother came on and posted about it on the other board and listed his full name name.  He was a unique case and his family knew about his fondness and involvement in the LPIN community--hell, his wife was a part of it and later became a working lady.  This was in 2012, and at that time it was more of a closely knit community than it is now.

When Curious died in 2011 his first name was mentioned.  But that really doesn't give someone much to go on.

When a poster who went by the handle of Sportsman died in 2015, someone actually posted a link to his obituary.  It was an old post that I found so I don't know about the circumstances of this.

Barring unusual circumstances where the person was out and public about it and their family knew, and in the case it was a member of the family who mentioned the name after a death, I don't think someone's name should be mentioned when they die (or if they are alive).

[Duck11]

HELL NO!!
Do not reveal anyone’s name unless it is your own. It doesn’t matter what you think is ok or if you think they wouldn’t have a problem with it. Mind your own business and do not post any information about anyone, whether it be monger or working girl.

[TC]

In Sonja’s defense she did make it sound like she had his permission. But I agree better safe than sorry.

[SixT9er]

In Sonja’s defense she did make it sound like she had his permission. But I agree better safe than sorry.

Sonja hears things the way she wants to hear them.


To clarify my statement. Sonja is very out and open about her sex world life so when max said he no longer had to hide his he meant from his employer since he was retired, he didn’t mean his family. Because of the way Sonja is she took it as all.


I will also add the the man who went by Max Wood had completely separated himself from that persona and the last thing he wanted was his real name to be associated with it

[Midwest Couple]

In Sonja’s defense she did make it sound like she had his permission. But I agree better safe than sorry.

So glad it wasn't about us!  We had mentioned Max's name in private emails to a few people whom he had mentioned to us, just in to wish our regrets. 


We should be more careful as we'd never want to be the ones outing anyone. 


In general, our answer is "NO".  No one should but outed in life or in death. 

RIP MAX WOOD! 

[niceguy eddie]

Often people in LPIN get friendly enough to exchange names and phone numbers.  Sometimes they do it with the ladies.


As others have said, this is private information and should never be made public.

[felinameow]

I feel discretion and respect is always of paramount importance and that legal names should NEVER be posted nor mentioned


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[Banginit]

I wouldnt on line... but i have with someone Im hott on here...but it stays between us.

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[HD]

never. respect and rest in peace. leave them be.

[Sonja]

Oh wow.  Been away for awhile and this is the first conversation I see.  Glad I have been entertaining you in my absence.  So exactly when did I "out" Max?

[rachelvarga]

I don't think anyone said you did. It was just about should it be.

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[SixT9er]

Oh wow.  Been away for awhile and this is the first conversation I see.  Glad I have been entertaining you in my absence.  So exactly when did I "out" Max?

No one said you did. You were the inspiration for the topic because of your comment elsewhere that you thought it would be OK to do so.
I’m happy to see that you have not Outed Max to my knowledge and hope it remains that way

[Sonja]

First the word "outing" implies that you are telling something about a person they do not want known. 

In that other thread someone suggested that it would be cool if we could see his photography sites.  I mentioned conversations I had with Max in which he told me that now that he was retired he didn't have to be "under cover" anymore.  I didn't go into great detail but he wanted us all to call him by & use his real name.  That was strange for me because I try to only learn people's fake names to avoid slip ups.  I have known him as Max Wood for years and he kept correcting me.  He also made sure I friended and followed him on his social media accounts under his real name which is another thing I don't do unless explicitly invited.  He went so far as to post his brothel photography online with the info about it on his business cards which he left with me. He asked me to get the word out for him.

I did not post the links because I saw there were some people who would get distressed over it.  The thread was a memorial and I didn't want it tainted with controversy nor did I want to get in a pissing contest over who thought they knew him better.

[SixT9er]

He no longer wanted to be associated with his board name of Max Wood.


Anytime you reveal a persons real name or show a picture of them you are outing them.


If you would have posted his name on a Brothel related board you would be outing him with the possibility of smearing his memory with his family. There is no way you could post a link to his photography site without revealing his name and thereby outing him and running the risk of family finding out.


This has nothing to do with who knew him better it has to do with You NEVER Reveal a Persons REAL name no matter what permission you think you may or may not have. If he wanted it known by all he would have posted it himself which he didn’t. He might have in the future but we don’t know this and no one has the right to make that decision for him after he passed


That thread on the other board was a thread I started to notify people of his passing. I agonized over sharing the information because I didn’t want Shit being dug up and as I said he had distanced himself from his Max Wood persona. Ultimately I posted because I knew I didn’t know everyone he was at all close to and thought they deserved to know.

[Vanityaffair]

Max wood will always be Max Wood. Even though he gave me his real info I was asked by Max Wood himself to never reveal it. Wonderful man and great photographer. May he Rest In Peace as Max Wood and let’s us end the guessing game of who he really was as far as his legal name. He is smiling in the glory of his beauty of his photography. Let’s just leave it at that. RIP max
XO Vanity

[rachelvarga]